Positive Identity
By Ayodeji Olaniyan
There are many people in the world today who would prefer to be shorter thinner, fatter, popular, vocal etc. We are not comfortable in our own skin!!!!.
In college, we had various groups and formed cliques which we felt were important in various stages of our lives.Some groups showed wealth, some intelligence/brilliance, some goodlooks & charm and if you didn’t fit into any of these categories, you were either sidelined, ridculed/looked down, or if you had those qualities, but wasn’t identified in a group you were criticised.
I feel this is a true reflection of our society today. There is nothing wrong aspiring to be someone, learning from people, having friends but you must have a UNIQUE IDENTITY.
It is tough being yourself sometimes, but the reason we don’t want to, is because WE LACK SELF CONFIDENCE.
Whatever you do BE YOURSELF.
To do this, find out your insecurities. What makes you feel ashamed, insecure, or lose your confidence? Identify them, think on ways in which you can deal with them.It is shocking to know how people lose confidence for the following reasons: how short they are, fat / thin they are, hairy they are, or for other reasons like the work they do, the house they live in , the woman/man they married etc.
Once you have identified this, analyse your worries , have an understanding that progress is made when you resolve the issues and carve out an identity for yourself and talk about it to true friends/family.
Everyone has insecurities, life is in phases and men are in sizes.Mark your successes, discover your talents.
Everyone has something he/she is good at, find out what makes you tick, stand out from the crowd and create an audience. Harness that talent, behaviour, character, gift etc. Feel comfortable about what you are good at and develop on it from time to time.
You would be amazed at how much confidence is built by doing something you are good at.
For futher information: Please visit www.discoveringpurpose.co.uk or send an email to ayo@discoveringpupose.co.uk.
My approach is non-judgmental.
I provide coaching to individuals:
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who need to discover who their true vocation.
- who are ready to experience positive results in their lives
It involves:
- Knowing where you are: This is making a summary of your current situation, your present circumstance, success, failures, highs, lows, frustrations etc
- Being Realistic: Taking a cautious and practical view of your goals, ambitions and desires.
- Relationships: This involves helping you establish open and positive relationships with family, spouses, friends and colleagues.
- Dealing with events of the past: Understanding the role past events play in distorting our perception of what’s going on around us.